1. Take the Power back to define your own Beauty
Not only taking it back for the cultural/media definitions but also from people around you in your life who have made judgmental remarks about your body. These people weren't able to see the beauty of your body because they had absorbed the cultural definitions themselves--and were judging you and probably their own body against these standards as well.
Take a moment now to close your eyes and imagine taking back the power to define the beauty of your own body. Take it back from the cultural definitions and the media--in your mind state "I will not allow you to define what my body should look like anymore." Think back to people that have made negative comments to you about your body--a family member, a romantic partner or other kids when you were little. Say to them in your mind "I take back the power to define the beauty of my own body--your comments were distortions and untrue--and I no longer give them any power." Feel how good this feels to clear yourself of all of this negativity and distortion.
2. Clear Your Own Negative Beliefs about Your Body
Because of your exposure to the cultural conditioning about the supposed ideal female body--you probably have practiced self-judgment of your body for not conforming to the promoted "ideal." These judgments and negative beliefs are again distortions and not based on the truth of the unique beauty of your own body. We all have bodies of different sizes and shapes that are special and truly beautiful.
Let go of your own rigid beliefs about how your body should look and begin to see how the very things that are different about your body are the very things that make you unique and beautiful. Write down the negative messages that you say to yourself about your body. Imagine writing them down to release them from your consciousness. Get them all out--the most negative hurtful ones you can think of. Look at these messages--notice how you would never dream of saying these things to anyone else in your life. Look at all of these messages and apologize to your body saying "I'm so sorry that I said these hurtful things to you--I promise that I will not say these things to you again and I will start loving you instead." Look at these messages again and with an intention to fully release them--tear up the sheet of paper and throw it away. Some people like to build a fire outside and burn the paper as a way of releasing this negativity.
3. Exercise for the Joy of Feeling Your Body Move
When you exercise to eliminate fat from your body and/or to compensate for calories eaten--this can come from a place of fear and have an energy of trying to control and fight against your body. Imagine exercising for the joy of moving your body and from an intention to be loving to your body--a desire for it to be healthy and have more energy. The clients I work with around this issue tend to be able to maintain an exercise program if they do it from a place of joy and self-love rather than control and fear about their weight.
Notice if there are things in your life that you don't do for fear of people seeing your body--like swimming, dancing or any other activity. Remind yourself that you deserve to do the things you enjoy no matter what your shape. Let go of what others think of you and stay focused on the fact that you have every right to do the things you enjoy.
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